My First Mother's Day
Written by Lucy Felton
Newbie mom and fashion journalist Lucy Felton knows a thing or two about diaper changes and sleepless nights. To mark her first Mother’s Day, the founder of lifestyle blog The Lucy Edit spills an honest account of life with a newborn.
Blow the horn, I’ve made it to Mother’s Day! My first, as it happens. When I gave birth seven weeks ago, boy oh boy was I oblivious to how dramatically my world was about to be turned upside down. My son Hector crash landed two weeks ahead of his due date on February 5, 2017. No amount of baby research, nursery nesting, or shopping trips to the kids' departments (however big the haul) could have ever prepared me for the lightning bolt shock to the system that struck when we brought him home from hospital.
Sound familiar? To all the other new mammas out there adjusting to the colossal shift that is motherhood – you’re not alone. Navigating nine months' pregnancy challenges – morning sickness, stretch marks and insomnia to name just a few – gave me plenty of time to get into the swing of things. Then just when I had my head wrapped around childbirth and (sort of) had a handle on styling my gigantic bump, boom! Baby was in my arms and nothing would ever be the same again.
When the hormones are rushing and you feel like you’re losing your mind, take a step back, breathe and celebrate the fact you’ve just brought a mini human into the world. No one ever said the early days would be easy, right? They don’t call it the "fourth trimester" for nothing! And even though you’re no longer carrying baby inside you, the first three months with a newborn are just as big of a deal as those three trimesters. My new mantra is "one day at a time." The short term plan is to survive – so in the long run I can thrive. I’m taking it slow, not trying to win Mom of The Year – but if I can get props for being loving, happy and relaxed, then that’ll do just fine. It starts with recognizing that every small task is a victory – and by cutting yourself some serious mom-slack. Managed to make a cuppa (one handed) and actually drink it while it’s still hot? Go you!
Made it through your first week of breastfeeding? High-five, mamma! Ditto your debut out-of-the-house diaper change, solo stroller collapse, car trips and bath time – all medal-worthy milestones in my book. Point is, forget about the pre-baby days when you’d multitask and juggle that work deadline, three loads of washing, the big shop, a hair appointment and gym session all before midday on a Saturday. Now you’re on newborn time, and that’s a whole different kettle of fish. At 4 AM when baby decides it’s time to roll, remind yourself that being a mom is one of the best things you’ll do in your lifetime – and quite frankly, the most amazing, precious gift you’ll ever receive for free. Not even the rarest of diamonds or swankiest set of wheels can compare to the thrill of your little bundle. Totally dependent on you for love, cuddles, and hundreds of burping back pats in between, there really is no better feeling.
This year, whether it’s your first, third or thirtieth Mother’s Day, forget the lavish afternoon tea, bypass the dressy dinner and dodge spending a small fortune on a mini getaway: the real way to make Mother’s Day count is to slow down, switch off and lap up the little things. That pile of laundry, list of chores and gazillionth email clogging your inbox can wait!
What's important is to take a big step back and focus on what really matters: lots of baby bonding, prioritizing your well-being and making those first memories as a family. Let the other things slide. These early days when they're teeny-tiny really flies – so soak up every second before they’re old enough to find holding your hand embarrassing! And to all the other parents out there – you’re awesome!
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